North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Developing a Sense of Self with Others

Goal: Children demonstrate the social and behavioral skills needed to successfully participate in groups.

Skill Progression: Social awareness and conscience

Age: 21-24 Months

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Attempts to control others by telling them what to do

Situations for Observation of Skill

Observe the child’s use of gestures and words as she interacts with others.

Elicitation Strategy

No elicitation needed.

Behavior Observed

The toddler says what she wants the other person to do; drags the person to what she wants them to do; or uses gestures to point to what she wants.

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

Encourage early childhood educators and parents to read the child’s cues and give them some, but not all, control. The child needs to learn that she can have some of what she wants, but not all. Keep a balance between the adult and child, so neither is in complete control.

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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