North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Learning About Feelings

Goal: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings.

Skill Progression: Self-control

Age: 27-30 Months

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Delays gratification for wants or for reward

Situations for Observation of Skill

Observe the child’s ability to wait for something he wants.

Elicitation Strategy

Bring a treat (acceptable to parents) or a very exciting toy to a play session. Show the child the treat or special toy to make sure this is something that is highly desirable to the child. Leave the item visible to the child while you play. Tell the child he can have the item before he leaves.

Behavior Observed

Observe the child’s reaction to the item. (You want the child to really want it!) If the child looks at the item frequently or talks about it, that means it is desired. Watch what strategies (if any) help the child postpone gratification. The child may verbally state that he will get the item later? May ask how much longer he needs to wait, etc. Some children may not be able to wait and demand the item immediately.

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

Explain the importance of delayed gratification to parents. The ability to control impulses is a key trait of successful learners and will help the child throughout life. Help early childhood educators and parents learn how to extend the child’s ability to wait by using “When…then…” statements. “When you are done with pick-up then you can go outside.” “When I am done … then we can…” Build up the wait time, so the child learns to control impulses.

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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