North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Learning About Feelings

Goal: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings.

Skill Progression: Self-control

Age: 42-48 Months

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Internalizes rules about “do’s” and “don’ts” and “right” and “wrong”

Situations for Observation of Skill

Watch the child during daily routines and play activities with other children.

Elicitation Strategy

If the skill is not observed, the adult can ask the child questions. For example, “If I were to bring one of my little friends here for a day, what would you tell him about what he can and can’t do here?”

Behavior Observed

The child verbalizes to other children what she should or should not do. If the adult has to ask questions, the child will detail the rules and her own beliefs about what is appropriate for the setting.

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

Early childhood educators and parents should make a few important rules that all children can learn. Teaching right and wrong come through modeling, discussing what has happened or may happen, and talking about what we need to do to make sure we are all safe, happy, and caring.

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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