Watch the child and adult in natural interactions, especially when the adult is trying to get the child to do something she doesn’t like to do.
If needed ask the adult to try to get the child to help with picking up toys, dressing or some similar task.
The child resists the adult’s attempt to get her to do something she doesn’t want to do. This is typical assertion of separateness and desire to be independent.
Dealing with tantrums can be difficult. Help parents understand that giving in to the child’s demands will just increase the tantrums. Model how to reflect what the child feels, and state in simple terms why the child cannot do what she wants. Talk about setting limits and giving the child choices between two options.
North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015
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