North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Learning About Feelings

Goal: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings.

Skill Progression: Self-control

Age: 48-54 Months

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Asks permission to use others’ possessions

Situations for Observation of Skill

Observe children during the classroom routines and play activities.

Elicitation Strategy

If no opportunity arises, the adult can do a small group activity, such as an art activity, where only a few of various items are available (markers, glue, etc.). This forces children to have to share.

Behavior Observed

The child asks to share or borrow items from peers. He may not always say, “Please” or “Thank you.”

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

Activities where children need to share materials encourage cooperation. Early childhood educators can remind children about the importance of asking permission before taking what they want or need.

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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