North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Developing a Sense of Self with Others

Goal: Children form relationships and interact positively with familiar adults who are consistent and responsive to their needs.

Skill Progression: Separation

Age: 42-48 Months

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May argue with adult about what he is supposed to do

Situations for Observation of Skill

Observe separation with the child with a babysitter or at a preschool.

Elicitation Strategy

No elicitation needed.

Behavior Observed

Arguments are typical as the child strives for control and self-reliance.

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

Help early childhood educators and parents understand that the child’s argumentativeness presents an opportunity for children to learn about others needs as well as to learn to compromise. Adults can present their needs and listen to the child’s needs. Clarify the difference between a want and a need. (“I need to be at work on time.” “You want to play longer.”) Involve the child in coming up with a solution. Set limits for this process.

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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