North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

Subdomain: Developing a Sense of Self with Others

Goal: Children form relationships and interact positively with other children

Skill Progression: Positive social interactions

Age: 42-48 Months

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Preference for same gender peers; engages in cooperative play; forms attachments to specific peers; attempts to solve conflicts independently

Situations for Observation of Skill

Observe the child in a classroom or with a group of familiar children. See with whom the child chooses to play when given the opportunity.

Elicitation Strategy

No elicitation required.

Behavior Observed

The child chooses to play with preferred (probably same gender) peers. The child also prefers not to go to an adult for a solution to a problem, but rather argues and negotiates.

Routines-based Intervention (Embedded Instruction)

The development of friendships is an important milestone for children. Early childhood educators and parents can support this by providing opportunities for friendships to develop. Support early childhood educators and parents in learning how to encourage independent conflict resolution giving them the ideas and words to use, such as, “What are some ways you can solve your problem? You two come up with several solutions.”

 North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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